judgy judgy judgy

My boss and I have a really good working relationships, and have worked together for almost 3 years now. As such there are many phrases and in-office jokes and comments that fly around between us.

From my side, one of my most repeated phrases I use is, * giggle * * chuckle * *snort * "Can I say something inappropriate...?" * More giggling *
and then I come up with some inappropriate pun or joke.

My boss's most commonly repeated phrase, usually aimed at me, is "judgy, judgy, judgy"

You see, we get our fair share of people who cross our paths who fit certain stereo types, me [being the inappropriate humour girl] cant help but point out the stereo types and their stereotypical behavior. My boss, good naturedly, usually responds with "Judgy judgy judgy".

It's funny how stereo types exist because, well, there are so many people that fit them.

But its a little less funny how judgy, or judgmental, we can be as humans. Not just against others but also against ourselves.

With the continuous crap that has happened, and increased in intensity, over the years I have often found myself judging myself. Questioning whether there is hidden sin in my heart, is that the cause of all this going on? Did i forget to tithe? Am I reaping for something that I sowed that I can't remember? Have I broken every generational curse? Do I not have enough faith? Am I out of the will of God?

These questions plague me, and I am sure you have probably wrestled with them yourself. I am also sure, like many who cross my path and hear my woes that you [like me] have also thought these questions of others. But why, why do we judge? Why do we fault find?  Is it because we struggle so much to embrace pain and suffering as part of life? Is it because we have put God in a box and built our faith around the box instead of around God, and bad things don't fit that box?  Or is it because we struggle to accept that God is sovereign and still think that little me has the power to cause such epic repercussions good or bad in my life or world? Or do we secretly struggle to forgive ourselves and therefore deep down inside we are convinced that we are the problem?

We need to learn to cut ourselves some slack. We also need to learn to cut each other slack. It's easy to look at a lot going wrong in someone's life, so much so it doesn't make sense and [inadvertently] judge them as we seek to answer the illusive "Why?".

If bad things happening are a sign that you aren't in the will of God, then explain Jesus on the cross? Explain Lazarus getting sick and then dying? explain John the Baptist being beheaded? This list could be endless.

Just remember that if you judge others, there are 3 fingers pointing right back at you. No one is perfect, NOT ONE! No one is Good...except God! We can be assured, as Jesus said, in this world you will have trouble. Stop trying to fault find or explain away the trouble. [even if you are explaining it away with "positive" explanations like calling it persecution or an attack from the devil]. I knew a lady who often said, "scabala happens"...I don't think we need a translation of that phrase. . .that is just what it is...."scabala happens".

So don't be the person who has the boss walking behind you daily chanting "judgy, judgy, judgy" . . .rather beloving and gracious towards yourself and others. Allow God the room to be God, to be the problem finder and fixer. [its not our roles]. Learn to lean on Him, not your own understanding.

Roman's 2:1 [The Voice]
So you can see there are no excuses for any of us. If your eyes shift their focus from yourselves to others—to judge how they are doing—you have already condemned yourselves! You don’t realize that you are pointing your fingers at others for the exact things you do as well.